Abdulhussain Musawi in his book “Murajiat” in letter 72, tried his best to proof that Aisha (r.a) wasn’t most beloved wife of prophet (sallalahu alaihi wa ala alih wa sallam). I am not going to discuss merits of our beloved mother.
I just want to alert Muslims regarding so called proofs of Abdullhusain. He said:
The mother of the believers `Ayesha enjoys a special status and she has her own contribution standing to her credit but she is not the best of the Prophet’s wives. How can she be the best since one authentic hadith quotes her saying “The Messenger of Allah peace be upon him and his progeny once mentioned Khadija and I objected by saying: `She was an old woman and such and such and Allah has granted you someone better than her [meaning herself].’ He said: `Not at all; Allah has not granted me better than her; she believed in me when people denounced me and she believed in me when people called me a liar; she shared her wealth with me when people deprived me and Allah blessed me with children by her while depriving me of the children of all others'”? `Ayesha is also reported as having said “The Messenger of Allah peace be upon him and his progeny never left home before mentioning Khadija and praising her. One day he mentioned her and I felt jealous. I said: `Was she but an old woman while Allah has blessed you with someone better than her?’ He became so offended that his front hair shook in anger then he said: `No by Allah! Allah did not bless me with anyone better than her! She believed in me when people disbelieved; she held me truthful when people called me a liar; she gave me an equal share of her wealth when people deprived me and Allah blessed me with children by her while depriving me the children of other women.'”
These two ahadeth are weak. As for the first one it was narrated by Ahmad in “Musnad”, Tabarani in “al-Kabir”, Ibn Abdulbar in “Istiab”. All chains are going via Mujalid ibn Sayed. And this narrator is extremely weak. He was discredited by Nasai, Ahmad, Daraqutni, Yahya ibn Sayed, ibn Muin. (See Mizan 3/438/№7070).
Second hadith was transmitted by ibn Abdulbar, and again via Mujalid, and second problem in chain is his son Ismayil ibn Mujalad, and he’s disputed.
Abdulhussain also said in this letter
The same happened with Safiyya daughter of Huyay when the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him and his progeny entered her room once and found her weeping. He asked her: “What grieves you?” She answered: “I have come to know that both `Ayesha and Hafsa speak ill of me and say that they are better than me.” He peace be upon him and his progeny said: “Couldn’t you have told them: `How can you be better than me since my father is Aaron my uncle is Moses and my husband is Muhammad?'”
This was transmitted by Tirmizi in “Sunnan”. In the chain Hisham al-Kufe. Tirmizi himself noticed that this chain isn’t so strong. Albani called hadith weak in “Daif tirmizi”.